Back from Break: Settling in again

Coming back from fall break has been a mix of emotions from going back home to coming back into the swing of things. Reading about Sarah’s return to college life was so different yet so similar. Like Sarah, I felt that strange change between something familiar to chaos again. Unlike Sarah, I did not come back to the smell of a dead fish but I did have to readjust to sharing a space with my roommate. Registration is coming up, with help from my academic advisor I have decided on which classes I have to take. It wasn’t like I had much of a choice on what to take. It is very stressful having to make your own schedule but I like that level of freedom too. These classes that I will be taking next semester will be considerably more challenging than the ones this semester. I have realized how much I have grown since the start of the semester even though it hasn’t been that long. I know where I want to go and now have the tools that I need to succeed. I am a little better at time management only a little. Sarah’s experience at a large school is very different from my experience at Longwood. At Longwood it is smaller and more personal. I can talk to my professors and see familiar people wherever I go. I guess that would be harder in a big lecture hall. Like Sarah I am exited for the end of the semester, but overwhelmed with the stuff I still have to do. I have noticed that I don’t really talk to people from my hometown much anymore. So I am really exited to see them during winter break. We have all just gotten so busy and it shows that we are starting new parts of our lives. As I think to the future I feel overwhelmed so I am going to try my best to live in the moment. I also need to stay focused on staying organized throughout the rest of college. Just like Sarah I am learning that college isn’t just about grades but the stuff you do and friends you make along the way.

 
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coming back from break, I feel a mix of comfort and disorientation, which is something I noticed Sarah experiences too. She returns to school after Thanksgiving ready to push through the last couple of weeks, but the shift from home to campus life isn’t easy. For me, going home felt familiar and grounding. Everything was where I left it, and I didn’t have to worry about sharing a space. Return ing to my dorm meant adjusting again to living with my roommate. While it hasn’t been a bad transition, it definitely feels different from the comfort of home. Sarah felt this too in her own way. She enjoyed the break but knew she had to readjust once she returned, and that’s something I really relate to.

Another thing Sarah and I share is the feeling of preparing for what’s next. She has to face exams and start planning for the next semester. I’m also starting to think about registration. What classes I want, which ones will help me reach my goals, and what times fit best have been taking up my mind recently. Even though I’ve been at Longwood for a while now, some parts of college still feel brand new, like figuring out how to manage my time during these busy stretches and making sure I’m on top of deadlines.

Unlike Sarah though, I have actually maintained and even gotten better relationships with my friends back home. My senior year of high school, I found myself isolating myself. It wasn’t for any specific reason, I was just doing it. Now being away from home most of the time, I rely very heavily on my hometown friends. It still feels a bit wild to have to distinguish them as my hometown friends and not just the people who live down the street from me or in second period.

With our two larger breaks coming up, I could not be more excited to just get this semester over and done with. I believe stepping away from the college scene for an extended period will do me wonders. I honestly am not the biggest fan 0f college as a whole. I know, however, when we all come back for the spring semester, I will feel a bit disoriented once again. Reading Sarah’s story reminds me that the rest of freshman year is going to involve a lot of change, and I want to plan for it, whether that means staying organized with classes, maintaining my friendships, or finding ways to make the return from breaks smoother. Like Sarah, I’m learning to balance comfort and growth.

 

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As I return from fall break, I feel very refreshed and motivated to continue my schoolwork. Although I was only at home for Thursday and Friday, I can pick up on the similarities of my own break experience compared to Sarah’s. Like her, it felt a little weird being at home with my parents and siblings. Not in a bad way, but I felt as if I had missed so many things going on in their lives that I needed a big debriefing session. 

Unlike Sarah however, I do know when to register and what classes I am going to take. Because I participate in ROTC, I am required to make a 4 year schedule of the classes I plan to take. This has helped me stay on track and has made registering and planning for classes much easier. After being at Longwood for around two months, not much is new and I feel like I do know the campus and the things that go on pretty well. 

When it comes to the differences with her big school experience versus a smaller school I haven’t really noticed too much. It seems as though everything is pretty much the same, just with less people. There are still always new things and activities going on throughout campus. 

I do kinda feel myself drifting a bit away from my hometown friends like Sarah does. Being away from them for so long causes both sides to miss out on all the little daily news bits that make somebody your best friend. It is kinda bittersweet to think about, as we both are moving onto different chapters in our lives. I still try my best to keep in touch with them as often as I can though. 

I honestly haven’t thought too much about the breaks that are approaching. I really enjoy it here and have a great friend group so I don’t really care to go home much. I find myself getting bored easier at home. When you live with your friends it makes it much easier to find something to do, especially on a college campus where there is always something to do or someone to hang out with.

It is interesting to see the similarities and differences that I have with Sarah. It has helped me understand that some of the things I think and feel are just common occurrences for all freshmen, making me feel better about things when I don’t think they are going well.



 
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How does my experience compare to Sarah’s?

Sarah in the beginning months of her first semester struggled a lot and did not know how to deal with the new emotions and situations she was experiencing. I can relate to that as I did not know how to deal with this new environment at first but was able to adapt to it faster than Sarah was. She did go through a really emotional break up which caused her to be more emotional than most would be. Just like Sarah, I am very excited to be home for the upcoming holidays and breaks. Although whenever she is home, it does seem a lot sadder overall compared to when I’m home. The thought of going home makes me feel very excited and gives me something to look forward to at the end of every week. That is due to me going home every weekend. The break will be just like my weekends except it gets extended by a few more days, making it even better for me emotionally. There are many differences between me and Sarah as she is a really artsy person, and I am very uncreative artistically. I would hate to go to a university like she is. She goes to Minnesota and I know that university has a lot more students than Longwood does. That fact alone makes me feel sorry for Sarah as that probably adds to the stress of her situation. I know I would hate to go to a university any bigger than Longwood since the freshman class is four times bigger than my graduating class in my high school. That does make me feel very out of my comfort zone as I’m not used to there being so many people, but I know it will be good for me in the end. Sarah’s experiences have both similarities and differences to my own personal experiences.

 

Comparing Sarah’s life and mine as class started

I saw myself in her, but only a little. After her parents dropped her off at the dorm, she stared into space and said, “I live here now.” She didn’t look excited, just kind of “blah.” To me, she seemed unsure and a bit self-pitying about her life in college. That’s understandable. She’s only 18 and still figuring things out.

I don’t feel the same way. Even though I’m going through a lot, I try to stay positive and see school as a blessing. I’m almost 45, and my perspective is different. I’m not here to “find myself.” I already know who I am. I’m here to grow.

The first six weeks have been intense. I’m juggling schoolwork with responsibilities at home. I help my husband with our business. I’m the administrator, secretary, accounts payable, and CFO. I do the taxes, the books, and even have to go to the county clerk’s office to fight the taxes they say we owe on our house and cars. My husband travels a lot, so I handle house repairs, car maintenance, and anything else that needs fixing. Right now, I’m also dealing with a bathroom renovation. 

On top of that, I’ve started perimenopause. Brain fog, poor sleep, memory lapses, poor cognition, and anxiety I haven’t felt in years. I never had this much struggle in my life. As the saying goes, “I’m on the struggle bus.” Some days feel heavy, but I remind myself to keep going.

I also put pressure on myself to get straight A’s and keep a 4.0 GPA. I got a 98% on my Legal Environment in Business exam, just one mistake, and 96% on my accounting exam, and I still beat myself up. My brain doesn’t feel as sharp as before, and I blame it on getting older. Sarah doesn’t seem to stress about grades like I do. With help from a new friend, I’m learning to lighten up. They say C’s still get the degree, and many CEOs were C students while straight-A students became the worker bees—haha.

And then there are my two needy and spoiled Old English bulldogs, Hank and Lucy. I cook them wild-caught Alaskan sockeye salmon and oven-baked sweet potato fries, peeled and sliced by me from the Amish store, to mix with their prescription kibble. I want them to live-as long as possible. I leave for school by 8:30 a.m. and I try to get home by 5pm for them, but this week has been 7 p.m. I feel guilty not being home by 5pm for them. I can’t do schoolwork at home, my dogs just want to cuddle, and I feel guilty saying no.

Sarah has a small group of friends, but she doesn’t seem to appreciate them yet. I’ve only connected with two people so far, but I’m thankful. I try to smile or say “Hi” at students who do not smile and live by Charles Swindoll’s words: “No one needs a smile more than those who have none to give.” I say hi, even to someone like Sarah.

Unlike her, I commute 40 minutes each way. It’s harder to build friendships, but I believe they’ll grow with time.

 
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My experience compared to Sarah’s

Sarah seems to be struggling a bit with finding herself and who she is. She tries to know more about herself by changing her looks and her diet. Not only does she struggle with that but also with how she views herself since her roommate is so overachieving she feels lower than her. She does not let things like this keep her down though, though she does not feel as comfortable making new bonds with people at first, as the semester progresses, she makes more relationships. I relate to that because even though it has only been one month that I have been here, I already made 2 friends which to me is great! I do not necessarily need to find myself, but I also plan on dyeing my hair next week. I feel that we are both stressed over the workload that college gives us, I would prefer to be in class for hours than to have to do things on my own after class. I do feel for her having such negative feelings with her roommate since I do not have those feelings with mine, I think we all put in the work that we do, and we are all different so we should not compare ourselves to each other or anyone in general. I am extremely excited for the holidays, I already go home every weekend, so I do not feel any negativity towards it. I feel more dread towards coming back, I know college is not that hard and it can be enjoyable sometimes, but it honestly feels energy draining, I do try to make the most of it though. I think that larger university students have less opportunities to have one on ones with their professors and it would be harder to make friends, while at a smaller university at some point you have a good chance of knowing a lot of people there and making great relationships with your professors.

 
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My experiences compare with those of Sarah’s in the sense that I out myself out there and attended social events which ultimately led to joining clubs. I compare myself similarly with Sarah’s hangouts with friends as she is always with someone close to her. I find myself more inclined to be with my friends than on my own, which aided in the attendance of social events as I made numerous friendships and communicated with others. I also struggled finding out how to register for classes, as described on page 141, which led to difficulty in receiving the classes I truly wanted. I have a hard time with electronics and I believe Sarah was similar to me in this way.

As the holidays near, I find myself excited and sad at the same time. I love being here at Longwood and spending time with my friends that I have made throughout the semester. I am scared of the class changes, I truly love all of my classes this semester and I can’t seem to find myself changing them. On the other hand, I am extremely excited to go back to my hometown and see my friends and family there. I absolutely love my family and being able to spend a good amount of time with them will heal my soul in a way. I miss going out places in my hometown, which I will be able to revisit once the holidays near. I will definitely feel weird returning to college after getting used to my hometown again, but it is not something I haven’t experienced before and so I believe it will be much simpler.

A larger University compared to Longwood would cause me lots of distress. I believe I would not be able to find my way around the campus and get acclimated to my surroundings easily. This small campus really gives me the feeling of home, even if there is not much to do. I understand how Sarah feels as she is always with her friends and I find that the smaller campus life makes me closer to my friends as it does for her. I appreciate the simple and quiet setting, making it better for me school wise.

 
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Sarah seems to be doing slightly better with classes. I have adjusted to all my classes pretty well I still feel challenged in class but my professors are very helpful. Sarah is also currently dealing with a break up. She went through a major identity crisis after her boyfriend broke up with her. I have not gone through anything drastic like she did. The only thing that is making me feel the way she does is all of my schoolwork. Sarah has started going out with her friends and attending activities. She went camping with her roommate Liz and had a good time. I have been going to do stuff with my friends, although we haven’t gone camping, we have gone to the Twin Lakes.

When Sarah leaves for home I think she feels slightly relieved but also stressed because of Ben. When she gets home she gets to see her friends. She is beyond excited but then she gets bad news that Ben would to be moving to New York in the summer, which was sooner than expected. If I were her I would’ve felt the same way she did, disappointed. For the most part her Thanksgiving break seemed good. Although, Ben did make an appearance and she made the situation quite awkward. I can relate to Sarah is this situation, it is always so nerve racking seeing your ex after the breakup. Unlike Sarah, I am so excited to go home for break. I miss my family and friends so much. Thankfully I don’t have to run into any ex-boyfriend over break. Sarah was quite sad to leave her hometown. I think it might also be hard for me to come back after break because I miss having my own space.

I feel like Sarah’s college experience is quite different from mine. She seems slightly introverted; I am the complete opposite. I love going out with my friends on the weekend and I enjoy meeting new people. Sarah has a few friends but she seems to stay in her small group. I think Sarah’s experience at a larger campus has lots of differences in comparison to Longwood. At Longwood, it is quite easy to make friends because you tend to see a lot of the same people in the same day. In comparison, larger universities, like Sarah’s, it isn’t as common to see the same people because there are lots of students and the classes are bigger. I think Sarah would thrive at a place like Longwood because it would give her an opportunity to become more involved and become more social.

 
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What Ive learned through research

It is a crazy feeling to know that I’ve already been in college for five weeks, the time here has truly flung bye. I think back to a few months ago when I was dreading coming to school, knowing that I had a challenging course load I didn’t know if I was ready or prepared to even start this new chapter of my life. The past few weeks I have grown more as a person and learned more about myself than in my entire life. I’ve learned that although my classes are challenging I am capable of pursuing this career. I can see myself in the personable future using all the knowledge I have learned so far. Whether it be from building my knowledge and understanding in learning a new language or using what I’ve learned about research in our past annotated bibliography. Before Longwood I had barely done any sort of research when it came to the APA formatting. I was able to learn many things using the greenwood library to help find good and reliable sources I could count on in my essay. With the assignment I now feel way more comfortable when it comes to finding sources and being able to narrow down the difference between a good and bad source. By reading the Understanding Rhetoric book I’m also confident in defining what a good primary and secondary sources are. I still think that I could use some work on paraphrasing, I’m not 100% confident on whether or not I am doing it correctly or not. That is one thing I believe would be beneficial is for me to look more in depth about ways to paraphrase without plagiarizing. Over these weeks I’m proud to have grown my knowledge in research and be able to apply it to nursing assignments in the future.

 

 

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As I am now entering my 6th week of school, I feel as though I am experiencing a lot of what Sarah is going through. Like her, I came into college with confidence and excitement but also a little nervous about stepping into the real world for the first time by myself. The first thing I found myself having to get adjusted to were my classes. Compared to high school, college is faster paced, and it is all up to you to stay on top of your work. It required a level of independence that I wasn’t quite ready for as I was so used to being reminded by my teachers when assignments were due and I’ve already found myself struggling to keep up at times. Another thing I find myself struggling to balance is my social life. But as Sarah did, I’ve learned that reaching out for help makes a huge difference. Something I experienced that was different than what Sarah went through was her roommate struggles. I love my roommates. You could say I lucked out; we all get along very well and there haven’t been any arguments or disagreements so far. We actually had this conversation, me and my three other roommates, we agreed that we are all so understanding that all we have to do is discuss things or ask to borrow things and so far, it’s worked out amazingly. Something I find myself mirroring Sarah’s experience is the feeling of being with friends from back home. I miss them. As much as I am excited to go home for the holidays, I find myself getting uneasy. Like Sarah, I can’t wait to see my family and catch up but I’m scared that when I come back after break, I’ll feel like I’m starting all over. I’m scared I’ll lose all the progress I’ve made so far. However, I am also confident that I will be able to handle it better than the first time now that I have experienced the struggles firsthand. Being in college has helped me find balance. It has helped me gain the independence I didn’t have, and it has taught me that the challenges never stop, you just learn to overcome them better over time.

 
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