How does your experience compare to Sarah’s
when I was reading this book, I immediately related to the pressure and uncertainty during the week of school. Like Sarah, I came in with high expectations. I thought that within the first few weeks, I would find my best friends, find a steady routine, and suddenly feel like I belong on campus. Instead, I found myself overwhelmed by the need to make friends quickly. Everyone around me seemed to be forming groups and fitting in and creating healthy routines, while I worried that I was falling behind. I relate strongly to Sarah’s quiet moments of observing others and wondering where she fit, because I am going through the same thought process. The loneliness that Sarah shows in her story is something I am also feeling as this week marks my 3rd week of college, going into my 4th. Even though I am surrounded by people, I still feel this sort of isolation, unsure if anyone really understands me. There are times when I question if I made the right choice in coming to college, because the experience isn’t immediately matching what I imagined. I have this sense of doubt that is weighing heavily on me, just as it did for Sarah. I also connected with her struggles in self-confidence. Being in a new environment full of talented, ambitious people makes me second-guess my abilities and wonder if I truly belong. Sarah’s internal monologue about doubting herself mirrored the thoughts I have almost daily. I often compare myself to others, worrying if I’m doing enough socially or academically. What I appreciate about her story is how honest it is about the messy and complicated emotions of starting over in a new place. It reminds me that these feelings are not just my own but are a common part of the transitioning into adulthood and seeing Sarah navigate those struggles made me feel less alone in mine.

Dear writer,
We are sort of one and the same with how we relate to Sarah. I also have just about daily thoughts doubting myself in whether or not I actually belong here at college. In the first few weeks it does seem like just about everybody had made their friend groups already. Whether they are genuine, long-lasting friendships or not is yet to be seen but that doesn’t help the loneliness that those who feel like they don’t have their group yet feel. I also connect with what you said about comparing yourself to others. I feel like almost everyone does this but may be scared to actually admit it to themselves that they are doing it. I feel like those who do compare themselves to others almost does subconsciously and it’s just a lingering thought in the back of people’s minds. I hope that not just you but everyone who feels like this finds what it they’re looking for and overcomes the self deprecating thoughts and feelings.